About Me

Ever wonder if this is all there is?
Have you put your hopes and dreams on hold because you take care of everyone else?
Do you wish things were different and it comes out as bitchiness or depression, or both?
It doesn’t have to be that way.
I’m Sandra Mayeux and I help women like you stop the glorification of being busy. Overwhelmed, over-worked and exhausted do not look good on you. (And you’re no good to anyone else if you feel like crap all the time.)
It’s a path I know well and it only leads to one place: pain (in the form of sickness, depression, loneliness, anger, resentment and more).
Four years ago, if you had asked me if I was happy, I would have said yes. I was married and, unlike many people I knew, actually loved my husband. We had two beautiful kids, owned a five-bedroom house and had two cars.

Everything looked good on the surface. But I was just going through the motions, functioning but not truly living. It felt like something was missing: the real me. I had become wife, mother, sister, friend and caregiver.

But who I was deep inside had somehow vanished. All of my hopes and dreams (aside from being a wife and mom) were still there, but I was so focused on everyone else, my goals took a backseat.
Sound familiar?
I wasn’t content. I was restless. I adored my husband, but he wasn’t always easy to live with. My beautiful children were both special needs and drained all my energy and patience. On top of that, both my parents had died and I “inherited” two disabled brothers, who I also care for. I didn’t ask for all of that responsibility. I was overwhelmed all the time and desperately needed a break. But I couldn’t get one.

Everyone’s needs came before my own. I didn’t bother to think about myself and how all the stress and exhaustion was effecting me. I wasn’t important. All my time was spent taking care of others.

I felt like I couldn’t breathe, sometimes literally. I wasn’t sleeping. I became cranky (think PMS on steroids). I got so moody, sometimes I couldn’t stand to be around myself.

When I looked in the mirror, I hated what I saw. I was beyond fat. I couldn’t believe I let myself get that heavy. I felt so ugly. My inner voice was a critical bitch who had nothing nice to say. I was disgusted by my appearance.

I tried avoiding anything reflective, as if the fat didn’t exist if I couldn’t see it. But I certainly could still feel it. My whole body hurt and I was exhausted! My symptoms (what symptoms?) were becoming extreme, but I kept blaming it on being fat.

Turns out I was wrong. I was sick. I was just so stubborn and unconcerned with myself that it took a long time before I realized it.
Eventually, I ended up with a diagnosis that changed everything: fibromyalgia. I didn’t know a lot about it at the time, but I knew it was not something I wanted.

The first thing I did was research and find out everything I could. I discovered that stress makes all the symptoms worse, which means stress literally equals pain. This realization caused major changes. I simply couldn’t go on the way I had been.
I decided I had to make myself a priority. I could no longer put everyone else’s needs above my own. I had to learn how to take care of myself and stop trying to please everyone else. I had no clue where to begin, but through trial and error I slowly learned.

I had to get honest with myself and figure out how to listen to my body and trust myself. I had to find ways to stop the self-criticism (aka my inner bitch). I discovered I had to love myself. But before I could do that, I had to accept myself exactly as I was and believe I was worthy of love.

Once I loved myself, then I had to learn how to take care of myself. This didn’t come naturally to me. I was used to being a caregiver to others. But self-care is critical to wellbeing and it needs to be done daily, not every once in a while.

I wish I could say the process was easy, but it was hard as hell. Trying to change beliefs I had my whole life. Facing my fears and becoming my authentic self. But the only way to change was to step out of my comfort zone.
I don’t want another woman to end up with an autoimmune disease because she isn’t taking care of herself. Trust me, it isn’t worth it. Fibromyalgia in particular almost always effects women with Type A personalities, who tend to put others before themselves. Fortunately, not everyone who fits that description ends up sick.

But why take chances?

You need to learn to love yourself and make yourself a priority NOW.
If this sounds like you and you are ready to step out of your comfort zone, I can help. You don’t have to go through life on autopilot or putting your dreams on hold. You shouldn’t have to hide from mirrors. Life is too short to feel unloved or unworthy.

You deserve so much more.
You are more powerful than you can imagine and you are full of potential. You have a spark inside waiting to be ignited. Make the switch from a black and white life to one in technicolor.

 Together, we can get you there.

Signup for a free 30 minute strategy session below and let’s discuss working together to change your life.

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